If you’re new to my blog, Let’s talk about… is a series here on my blog where I pick a topic and share my thoughts on it without any structure or planning. Today I would like to talk about self-love. So without any further ado, let’s jump into it!
I truly think that self-love is the most important kind of love you can give and receive. And yet a lot of us are quite oblivious when it comes to self love. We give our love to others, we receive love from others, but we often don’t give enough love to ourselves. Before somebody picks up on this, I’m not talking about narcissism, okay? There’s a huge difference between those two. I’m talking about accepting who you are and embracing it.
The most obvious part of self-love is loving our bodies and our appearances in general. And here’s where body positivity comes in. A movement that has two very vocal and distinctive ends. One of them suggests eating only healthy food and constant exercise in order to be healthy, and the other one promotes literally stuffing yourself with junk food to prove that you don’t care what you look like. I strive to fit somewhere in the middle.
As someone who’s had a fair share of dieting, starvations, “slip ups”, and punishments in my life, I don’t agree with either of them. Both of them can have a negative impact on your mental health. Yes, I do eat healthily and exercise regularly, but I also allow myself to eat junk food if that’s what I’m craving. For me, eating healthy and exercising is not only about what I look like but mostly about keeping my body healthy in order to do the things I love, and to live a long fulfilling life.
But self-love is not only about the way we look. We all have some personality traits we don’t like about ourselves. For me, it’s my shyness. I’m painfully shy, which often leads to people think that I’m being rude to them or that I don’t like them. That’s not necessarily true. I just don’t know what to say.
We tend to be hard to ourselves. Why? I don’t know. Surely, you have a few people in your life who you love, right? Whether they are your partner, family members or friends, it doesn’t matter. I’m pretty sure that all of them have some traits you’re not very fond of. Would you tell them they are ugly? Would you tell them they are stupid? Would you bring them down for doing something accidentally wrong? Of course not! Then why do we treat ourselves like this?
For me, self love means accepting myself who I am, being mindful, and reducing the negative self talk. I eat healthy to nourish my body but allow myself junk food if I want. I try to exercise regularly but I skip a workout if I don’t feel like it. I accepted those parts of my body I didn’t like because they make me ME. There are quite a few personality traits I love about myself and I work on those that I don’t.
Do you agree with the importance of self love? What are your thoughts on this topic? Let me know in the comments!
See you soon!
xoxo, S. V.
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